A Nigerian man, Lander, shares his story:
I was working in a bank until recently when my employment was terminated. When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities.
Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me.
I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family. After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state government. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fueling our car sometimes.
The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.
Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4 months and she's is misbehaving.
To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay her back.
At the instance of a simple argument or misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......' Her attitude just because of a temporary set back is really disturbing me.
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